hi there! Virginia, the most important thing is that you found happiness with your 2nd husband and that you have been treated the way a woman should be treated.

You are right, sometimes we have to learn from our mistakes. We have to experience unexpected things in life which will let us understand what life really is and at the same time, learning from it. And at the end of the day, if ever we faced another hardship in life, it'll be easier for us to accept and face each challenges that will come our way.

Bless yah, Virginia, for being so strong in the trials of life.
*hugs*

Caffeine_Kittie, thank you for saying that..about me being strong...cant explain it but that made an impact on me! (((((((((Caffine_Kittie)))))))) hugs back at ya....have a good day!!

Ginny, I agree with our coffee consuming cat here :lol:

You are very strong. I don't know too many persons who would have the courage to fight back, to start again in the life for so many times. You are indeed a fighter and in the end I think it's the secret for any woman. We need to believe in our strenght (because we have it), we need to have the "guts" to say NO and even consider a new life once our current one is no longer good.

Your story is an inspiration for all women in all countries. There are so many who just keep on receiving a bad treatment because they fear another kind of life is not good. This is why I also sustain the idea for financial INDEPENDENCE. I was always with a job and no matter how little I would earn as compared to my spouce that little money could guarantee me a nice life alone if I had to separate. Many women are in bad mariages since they are not ready to sustain themselves fiancialy. My advice to all, WORK. Have a small job, but work. If things turn bad you can always start alone, get a second job if needed but escape the hell.

To answer to your question our ranking sustem is made from kyu grades (9th is the smallest rank and 1 kyu is the highest). These are coloured belts. After that we are given a black belt. In my dojo we have 7-8 years to wait to be a black belt since the sensei is really picky

I am halfway, after 4 years I am considered an advanced student, I can also teach some juniors from time to time.

Hi Ramona, well you made me cry on that one, but a good cry, I never considered my self to be a strong person, just someone who wants to be treated the way I treat people and nothing less..thanks Hun. I'm sooo glad I found you ladies...as far as your black belt goes...my son started training TAE KWON DO at 14 and just now got his black belt at 24 so it took him 10 long hard years but well worth it to finally earn his black belt...his training came in handy tho when he was 17, he was walking back to his car with a friend when two kids jumped him and I met him at the hospital with barley a scratch on him, his friend on the other hand was bleeding pretty bad and I believe worse had Donny not helped him. so it is good to know....you keep up the good work Ramona....and good luck with it all....Donny goes in July to Vegas to do a class with Chuck Norris, are you familiar?

I am totally against and I call a guy that hits a woman this:a coward.I went through.I had a boyfriend when I was 18 years old that slapped me around treated me like dirt and I had enough of it.I finally did tell him that it was over and I broke up with him two weeks after my 19th birthday.I did call him a coward in his face also

I have been though this myself with my frist marrige and dont agree with it at all.Living in fear every day is not a nice feeling.

there are times when a girl just pushes and fights and whinges and gets a bloke to the end of his patience that he hits her, like shes asking to be hit, so shes got an excuse to hate him more. Then there are girls that hit their blokes too.

I believe in second chances and working out why first, and working on it to stop it from happening again. (but depending on how bad the first time was) But there are many reasons and situations. If my partner just come home one day and started hitting cause he had a crappy day at work, no, I wouldnt work through it, I would leave ASAP, I wouldnt say right there and then, dont want to make the situation worse, I would just leave the next day, or change all the locks and throw his stuff out.

If there is an argument, and both get fired up and someone is hit, I would reasses the situation, and again depending on how badly hurt. If it was one slap or a shove, I would work on it.

CreamPuff you came with a very interesting point of view. There are some women who do provoke an aggressive reaction. I have witnessed some of these quarrels when she was overboard a lot and the poor guy could barely hold himself. I think such a woman is kinda asking for it. I would slap her myself, I wonder how the guy could keep himself from this :twisted:

This is the case in some relationships and that woman should really try to change something in her. Still there are so many cases he's coming home with a vengeance and hits the woman and the kids. Then I think there's NO excuse for this, no matter how nice he's gonna act in the following days.

this is an interesting subject....

my bf and i get along very well...we argue, of course, but we Never hit eachother, and i myself am a "katarate kid" i learned Wing Tsun for 2 years...it's not much, but i enjoyed it and rarely used it (but not on my BF ) .

but my bf has a sister, which we don't like at all..and she hates us as well...every day she would wake up, hit her poor helpless boyfriend, screamed at him, called him names..and that bothered us very much,so we asked her to stop, but instead she went on and on and started swearing at us and took our stuff and she got so annoying one day that my BF asked her to stop..again and again, but she told him that she would make her BF kill him! and that was it...she has threathened him and so he slapped her, and they kinda got into a fight, but only then she stopped being such a B|t@% , well, she didn't stop, but when my BF was arround, she did not do all the crap she did before, and so we had peace and quiet...

so, yes...when a girl asks for it...well, violence is sometimes the answer.
good thing we moved and we won't see her ever again. Thank God!

o oh... i forgot to say that if he would ever hit me..i would leave him at once... i myself don't accept it when he screames at me, but what can i do if i make a mistake that annoys him so much ? i yell at him as well if lose my temper, but that's as far as we go..and then we realise it and we stop and try to talk about our problem. we both scream, but he is the one that realises,and i respect that. :!: