Some men, when they don't have any more ideas for an argument use their phisical superiority against a woman. Do you think hitting a woman you love could be the end of the relationship? Should a woman in such a situation leave him?

I am totally against it. If a man I was dating or living with would do this I'd simply reply and kick him as much as I can. It's NOT OK to hit a woman!

no i don't think it's right but women hit men too and i don't think thats right either i think when u can work something out walk away then cool down and try to work it out later if that don't work then wright it out for that person to read it but thats just me

now this one really hits home for me. I first married at the young age of 19 to a guy who while dating couldn't do enough for me meaning opening doors, pulling out chairs ect. TILL the ring went on, then the beatings began, I mean black eyes bruises all over... Love is not suppose to hurt, so there for I feel he never loved me in the first place but we were young and dumb... I have to say on defending women hitting men, I think my situation called for it.. I took it for sooo long and then I snapped and beat the living hell out of him... then the divorce.... but no, man shouldn't raise a hand to a women and vise verse.. sorry Ramona I went on like this but this sure did trigger something in side me.... Ladies if a man ever hits you and says hes sorry.. dont believe him, I made that mistake... run dont walk as far away from him as you can, because if they can do it once... trust me they will do it again and again, no matter how sorry they say they are.. dont believe them..... I hope nobody thinks i'm nuts here.. lol lol... oh well... happy 4th tomorrow everyone!!... OOPS! tomorrows only the 3rd..sorry

You hit him? Excellent. This is indeed a great thing. These bastards should have everything thrown in their head (chairs, plates) and should really get a sound beating.

So sorry to hear about your experience, but people like you are the ones who can lead other women to start knowing that he IS NOT supposed to hit them. I agree with the fact a man shouldn't raise his hand against a woman and if he's done that he'll do it again.

I always said that if a man would try to hit him I'd just hit him back till I can't move. My Karate training might be put to some work

Hi Ramona, I'm not trying to promote violence here, but enough is enough. My x was 6 ft. and I stand 5'3"....after him once again hitting me, I waited till he was walking out the door and I jumped him from behind, got him on the floor and proceeded to kick the living day lights out of him..Ramona Karate sure would help in cases like that, at the time I wish I knew it...my son teaches tae kwon do now, maybe i'll have him show me some moves just in case..lol hes black belt....how far are you in belts?

im sorry to hear that Virginia.... but at least you gave him a lesson...its great to stand up for our rights. I hate women violence.....and i dont want to experience it...if a man will hit me....i will leave him at once..you are right Virginia, if hedid it once..he can do it again....its such a bull$*** they say sorry after doing such thing. If they loe you...they will never hurt you..never!

I grew up with my parents and never did my dad hit my mom even when they are fighting....they just talk...alone without us (kids) hearing them. My dad or my brothers never hit me as well...no one...so i really dont want any man to hurt me...physically.

Hi Caffeine_Kittie, well my dad always says, How a man treats his mom, is how he will treat his women, but again we were young and dumb, but now looking back my x and his mom never got along and that should have been the clincher right there....if I could live back then with what I know now it would have been a totally different ball game so to speak....but if you learn by your mistakes in life then I guess their all worth living threw, if that makes any sense to you...then I met my 2nd husband and he treated his mom like a queen and myself also. we were married 12 happy years till he passed in 95 from a heart attack..oh well, sorry to have gone on like this but you guys all make me feel like your my long lost friends...thank you all for that....

GJAX57 please feel free to share your ideas and experience. It's a place for us to know each other and also find a lot of things about how life is in different parts of the world.

I have started this topic just to know how people feel about this and maybe determine more women not to eat "crap" for anyone. NO human being has the rigth to hurt another, lest a man hurt a woman. If there's love, violence has nothing to do with it.

You showed a GREAT courage. Most women I know who are victims of domestic violence never thought about "giving back". Many of them just stay and get beaten and many are so lost they even this this is right :shock: I have some people I know who think that a man has the right to sometimes hit them since he's the man in the house. Yeah sure :lol:

You have an interesting idea with the relation between a man's behaviour with his mom and the women in his life. It carries a lot of truth indeed. If a man is capable of a good social life with his family, then almost sure he'll be able to have a good life with the woman he loves.

My karate classes have prepared me to hit and kick and maybe be ready for aggression. The other good thing is that people know I am a karateka and they kinda have a small "fear" since they know I am at least ready to respond to aggression. I am a 5th Kyu (blue belt) after 4 years of training. (so that I also respond to your question ).

I am very "picky" when it comes to men. I have a great relation with my BF and with the 2 ex BFs it was the same. I don't accept even being yelled at. I talk calmly about the problems and expect the same from my man. It seems like I was able to "mold" them all into my ideal man shape.

Thank you Ramona for the kind words, unfortunately a lot of woman will fall into the trap of being told over and over by their abuser that they are no good and cant do any better then who their with, and start themselves to believe they deserve what is being dished out to them. verbal abuse to me is worse then the physical abuse, physical will eventually heal its self, but verbal abuse, I think anyways, you carry threw your lifetime...I'm sorry Ramona, but now is a 5th KYU close to the black belt? I'm a little lost when it comes to the degrees of belts..is Karate kinda like Tae kwon do...anyways all good to know.....and I bet no one with what you know would want to mess with ya...hey can you teach me how to mold a man? :lol: